Sophielou (original poster new member #86356) posted at 4:52 PM on Friday, May 22nd, 2026
Today I saw the woman my other half cheated on me with, there are times where I'd expect it as we go to similar places but today I didn't.
Me and my partner was having a good day today and seeing her has completely thrown me off, it's the first time since finding out (25th June 2025) that I've seen her and it kind of set me back, my good mood has been completely thrown off.
Although in my head I put her on this pedestal, so in some ways I'm emotionally thrown but then in another it was good for me to see that she's just an everyday person and she wasn't this perfect person that I visioned in my head. I'm not going to bash her or make comments.
It's normal to set me back isn't it?
5Decades ( member #83504) posted at 5:12 PM on Friday, May 22nd, 2026
It’s definitely normal to be triggered and setback by being exposed to the affair partner.
I know for me it’s hard to retain my composure, but I take the high road when it happens.
5Decades BW 69 WH 75 Married since 1975
WH trickle truthed for 48 years.
Ladybugmaam ( member #69881) posted at 5:21 PM on Friday, May 22nd, 2026
Totally normal. I used to run into OW once a week. It took a lot to get me back to myself when I did. My plan is to just ignore her. And, most of the time I can do that….but my body on the inside is usually another story completely.
The only specialness is that she was as broken and willing as your FWS. Hang in there.
EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son
I am a phoenix.
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 3:22 PM on Saturday, May 23rd, 2026
very normal, why didn't you look at her sooner to get it over with?
Sophielou (original poster new member #86356) posted at 10:41 PM on Saturday, May 23rd, 2026
I have looked at her social media obviously but circumstance has never come around for me to see her in person since it happened, trust me, I wanted too so I could get it out of the way but our paths didn't cross.
She walked by me, I wasn't facing her way as although calm I kind of froze a little, part of me wanted to say something but it wasn't worth it, I wasn't going to give her the satisfaction.
BondJaneBond ( member #82665) posted at 12:26 AM on Sunday, May 24th, 2026
Of course it's normal. If I'd seen her, I'd be in jail tonight. But I don't really care about being normal, I'm just me.
So yes, it's perfectly normal. Maybe it's good for you to see that she's just another piece of trash, and nothing special.
What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Use anger as a tool and mercy as a balm.
Sophielou (original poster new member #86356) posted at 2:00 AM on Sunday, May 24th, 2026
Well, I wanted to say she was trash but you know. Thank you for your reply, she really isn't.
In my head I'd put her on this pedestal of what she must be like, as I knew her but not seen her in years, and seeing her really did smash that illusion.
