The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 2:00 PM on Saturday, May 24th, 2025
I feel sad for your wife. At a young age she made a series of very poor choices but luckily was able to pull herself out of that lifestyle.
However at an early age she learned and saw some bad things. People struggle with those memories and situations for years. Some never seek help yet some do.
I think this puts a new spin on your situation and I hope you can see she was victimized (at times). She may have "willingly" had sex but she was following a very poor role model at a young age.
While she should have told you (no excuse for that) I think she’s lucky to end up not getting stuck in that situation for her entire life.
I hope she gets the professional help she needs.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
