I hope it helps you both.
I also hope she does something with the information too.
Me too. She really has turned the corner tho. She's doing and saying all the right things now. We listened to a couple of hours last night, and I paused and clarified some of the analogies being used. Her head injury makes understanding analogies and complex topics difficult for her. It also makes her kind of impulsive, not carefully consider consequences, or think things through very well sometimes. We'll be married for 27 years this coming June 6th, and this is the first time anything like this has happened. What really burns my ass is, I've had opportunities over the years. A few of them with 3 different girls. Every time one was presented, all I could think about was my wife, and what it would do to her. To us. It wasn't worth it. This was before I had my breakdown and withdrew from everyone. There was no way I could go through with something like that. I stayed faithful to her, and it would have been so easy for me to stray.
I see you've been through the wringer and managed to reconcile. Sorry you had to go through that. Twice, no less, but gives me a little hope seeing that you managed to reconcile and make it work. I think we can, too. She's pretty messed up and hates herself for doing this right now. She put her head in my lap and started sobbing while saying she's so sorry last night. I was receptive to her, but at the same time it's whatever. As far as I'm concerned she should be feeling bad. I have no sympathy to spare for her on that at the moment. I haven't forgiven her, and I told her that. I don't know if I ever will. I do still love her, tho, and she's really gone over the top, above and beyond to convince me she feels the same way. She didn't hesitate to create an account and download "Not Just Friends." I figured it could be something she'd listen to at work, but she started it right away, right in front of me, so we sat on the couch last night and listened to it for a couple of hours together.
I'm still learning new details. The A didn't last long. It didn't take long to get started either. There was no real "friendship" period. He started pursuing her and made his intentions clear right off the bat, sending her messages over FB, which turned into voice chats, then plans to meet at a hotel room. He knew she was married, and he knew it was a troubled marriage. Not that i place the blame solely on him. It takes 2 to tango, and she jumped right into it recklessly and carelessly.
