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My first post. My story is in my bio, but I'll add it here also.

11/4/23 - WS handed me his phone so that I could help with something on it. Email exchange w/AP was on phone screen. WS admitted to 13-year EA w/AP. I told WS to pick just one of us, me or AP, his choice. WS sent AP no contact email and blocked AP from phone and email. Got into counseling.

1/11/24 - AP called our home early one morning. I answered - AP hung up. Caller ID displayed her place of work (small employer). I called AP back and left message for her to call me back or I would call her husband. AP didn't call back, so I followed through and called her husband about EA. He was dumbstruck.

~12/24 - I found SI. Read a LOT - great stuff. WS's story just wasn't all adding up for me, but I had no proof of PA. Challenged WS to take polygraph (thank you SI). Failed polygraph on 1/13/25. Truth came out that it was 13-year PA. Yes, that was 14 months of trickle truth - ouch.

I want to email AP to let her know what I think of her. All I really want is for her to read it, but I wouldn't mind having her shake in her boots a little! (A bit vindictive, I know.) I composed the email months ago and have edited it to where I'm happy with it.

My question for all you wise ones: which option?
A. Don't send the email. Just save it as a draft or discard it.
B. Send the email, asking her for a brief response - just so I know that she read it. Include a deadline for response or I will contact her husband with evidence of PA.
C. Send the email asking for a complete timeline (when, what, where) or I will contact her husband with all that I now know. Include a deadline for response. This is the version to get her shaking in her boots. I don't really want to read her version of the timeline as I already know too much.
D. Option I'm not thinking of.

Thanks all. I sure wish I wasn't here.

Forget about her. Don't let her know she takes up space in your head. She doesn't care what you think of her, and I'm pretty sure she knows anyway.

Just contact her spouse. Don't play games threatening to do so if she does this or doesn't do that. He deserves to know, the end.

This. ^^^^^

Welcome to SI. If you've read here a lot, I won't do the "read the pinned posts in the JFO forum."

I suggest not sending the email. You don't want to put anything in writing that the AP may be able to use against you. You already know they lie and cheat and there's no guarantee that you'll learn anything constructive.